Beware
of the Energy Vampires
Dear
Associate,
I
study under the guidance of a female entrepreneur. I admire
her for her tenacity, expertise and training style. She gets
totally focused, works very hard and gives 110% each session.
She
doesn't like interruptions during her trainings. When she
gets interrupted she usually offers a cynical, slightly snide,
but cute remark. Then I noticed she had a few of these remarks
saved for different staff and personnel working in the same
facility.
It
didn't dawn on me what she was doing because I thought it
was sort of entertaining at first. Then it got to a point
where I no longer wanted to hear those remarks anymore. Then
it got to a point that a negative remark was directed at me
with others in the same room.
After
replaying the tapes of that day — I believe she might
have been upset with me. I'm not sure why. We didn't make
a lot of eye contact and we didn't talk. Gosh, I wish I were
better at reading non-verbal signals.
I
was taken aback at the potshot and played it off as if it
didn't bother me. And I wanted to show everyone that I was
too cool to get phased by her cutting comment. Maybe she had
a rough day and I should be more understanding.
But
that incident gnawed at me over the weekend...
I
didn't show up for our sessions that next week. I needed some
time to think this over. She had taught me enough to where
I became self-sufficient. Maybe it was time to cut the cord.
I
don't know.
But
here's what I do know...
Some
of the same people she made remarks about have never said
anything negative about her. At least not in front of me.
These people have been very cordial and nice to me.
I
began seeing a pattern here...
It
seems she was self-sabotaging her relationships for whatever
reason. She was the one being negative. She was the one projecting
negative energy. There must be negative programming running
deep in her hard drive.
Here's
a fact of life:
There
are, have been, and will be negative people in your life.
They are the energy vampires who suck the positive life force
out of you. They will steal away your joy. Some of them even
feel a sense of power and accomplishment when they do their
dastardly deed.
Here's
a little tough love:
Not
all people in the world are nice. Sometimes it may be their
fault. Sometimes through no fault of their own.
Don't
allow these people to affect you. Remind yourself that you
won't allow anyone to rob you of your joy, happiness and positive
feelings. You choose to be happy and that's final.
Just
say to yourself, "I choose to be happy. No one can take
that away. I refuse to give them that power."
Walk
away if you have to. Blow it off. Learn to disconnect and
detach yourself from these type situations. And never, ever,
give your power away.
Make
this your Prime Directive. Your mantra. Your daily affirmation.
And you will attract and be surrounded by happy people filled
with positive energy.
Warm
regards,
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